There is a common belief that strict diets, fasting and reducing calories are enough to lose weight. Unfortunately it’s all wrong.
In my long battle against overweight I have heard all sorts of weight loss tips: eat this, don’t eat that, combine this food with that other food, drink this infusion between meals and so on. Most of them are good and honest tips, but their problem is that they only stop at the surface. A strong will is wasted energy if there is no change in mentality. Discipline without weight loss motivation is nothing. I started to solve this problem when I started to think backwards and to break the rules I had always been taught.
Here’s where you can start from too. Stop saying “I will buy that dress that I love, but only after I have lost weight.” It works the other way around: go to the shop and buy it now. When I first heard of this different approach, I first rejected it, as it was complete contrast with all I had been taught: first do your duties then the reward will come. But then I realised how beneficial this reversal could be, and how much more energy it could set free. I used to think I had to lose weight to like myself more, but it was actually the other way around: I had to like myself first, in order to lose weight.
So, whatever you wanted to do “after” losing weight, do it “before:” get yourself that new dress, or that perfume, ask that girl/guy out, go on holidays… nurture your joy for life, and it will take care of the rest.
It’s a great virtuous circle you can start here: like yourself more and you will be liked more, fall in love again with life and food will be no longer a surrogate.